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Good news or bad news


It's all in perspective we cannot determine if something is good news or bad news!!! 

This is one of my favorite story. It is story of the Chinese farmer. 

The Taoist teaching narrative claims that he had a horse that bolted, causing his neighbours to comment, "Well, that's awful news."
Who can say, the farmer reportedly said, "Good news, bad news." In a little while, his horse returned with another horse, which many people saw as pure luck, the farmer witholded his judgement and mentioned "Good news, bad news, who can say?". The farmer let his son ride the new horse, which caused him to fall and break his leg.
Sympathizing neighbours chirped, "What terrible news.
"Good news, bad news, who can say," the farmer remarked.
Days later, the emperor's army entered the village to round up the physically fit young men for combat. The farmer was praised by the locals for saving his injured son, and the sympathetic neighbours muttered, "Such horrible news."
The farmer said, "Good news, bad news, who can say?"
Days later, the soldiers of the emperor marched into the village to gather up the fit young men for battle. When the neighbours learned that the farmer's injured son had been saved, they gave their congratulations to the father.

I'm sure you can predict what the farmer said.
At least in regards to adversity, I'm starting to see the wisdom in his concept. I've discovered that occasionally supposedly terrible news can result in good.
Situations like getting rejected for a job or losing one, being dumped by a lover or left by a spouse, or being diagnosed with a serious disease or injury can occasionally turn out to be more beneficial for us than we could have ever planned or expected. Asking "Why me?" after I've experienced my genuine emotional reaction to terrible situations hasn't helped me as much as asking "What next?" or "What can I learn from this?"

Life has lot to teach so learn as much as you can without worrying about good news or bad news. 

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