Life as i see it

 Power to Respond is always there with you. 

You can be sweet to someone and make their day or You can be harsh and block them off. The power to react or respond is in your hands in workplace or in family place.

The above point brings a level of personal accountability and proactivity in our life. Power to  respond and acting like a victim are mutually exclusive. That is you have power to respond to every thing that life throws at you and you don't need to act like a victim of circumstances. The choice is always present with us. 

They say - When we choose to love the work we do, we can catch our limit of happiness, meaning, and fulfillment every day." - instead of seeing it as Thank god, Its Friday. 

People like to work in an environment that is fun, energizing, and where they can make a difference.

It is fashionable today to believe that we should not settle for anything less than doing what we love. 

• Write poetry, 
• travel the world on a sailboat, 
• paint-do whatever you love, 
• and the money will follow

I am working because i have significant responsibility in my life and my true calling  is not yet discovered. May be current schedule occupies our valuable time that we don't have time or energy to seek a new line of work. 

But i can say that i have deep source of energy , creativity and passion by learning to love what i do, even when i might not be doing exactly what i love. 

Currently i work for salary, security and benefits. But i understand Maslow's Hierarchy of needs and Rewards , status  and power keeps me happy. I like to be power center of my team. 

I had been lucky to get good number of Awards so far in my work place - highest achievement and one of the youngest Manager currently in my organization to manage a small team. 

I was recognized as high performing associate and was sent for higher education program in my current organization. 

In the Babemba tribe of South Africa, when a person acts irresponsibly or unjustly, he is placed in the center of the village, alone and unfettered. All work ceases, and every man, woman, and child in the village gathers in a large circle around the accused individual. Then each person in the tribe speaks to the accused, one at a time, each recalling the good things the person in the center of the circle has done in his lifetime. Every incident, every experience that can be recalled with any detail and accuracy, is recounted. All his positive attributes, good deeds, strengths, and kindnesses are recited carefully and at length. This tribal ceremony often lasts for several days. At the end, the tribal circle is broken, a joyous celebration takes place, and the person is symbolically and literally welcomed back into the tribe."  

Sometimes you need to remind yourself if you don't have the TRIBE around that's self motivation. That's why this blog. 

Attitude - There is always a choice about the way you do your work, even if there is not a choice about the work itself. Same way there is always a choice on how you handle issues at home - A person can  choose their attitude. I know that because I chose mine, i want to be on path of betterment and the pillars are same- Creativity, passion, flexibility, wholeheartedness and i do believe if these four pillars are strong family life will be beautiful. we need to remember that the risk of doing nothing is probably greater than the risk of acting so lets at least try and be happy that we tried. Let the rest weep. 

Most of us are uncomfortable thinking of ourselves as artists … But each of us is an artist … With every choice, every day, you are creating a unique work of art. Something that only you can do The reason you were born was to leave your own indelible mark on the world. This is your authenticity . . . Respect your creative urges ... step out in faith. .. you will discover your choices are as authentic as you are. What is more, you will discover that your life is all it was meant to he:

I love to learn and i observed that many people, somewhere along the line, stop learning and growing and why they do that because of many reasons - One must be compassionate in assessing the reasons. Perhaps life just presented them with tougher problems than they could solve. Perhaps something inflicted a major wound to their self confidence or their self-esteem . . . Or maybe they just ran so hard for so long that they forgot what they were running for - BUT There is something I know about you that you may not even know about yourself. YOu have within you more resources of energy than have ever been tapped, more talent than has ever been exploited, more strength than has ever been tested, and more to give than you have ever given - Hence choose confidence, Trust and faith. 

Even if someone had bad relationship there is nothing going to change by reacting and feeling like a victim, the problem is not going to be solved , The problem needs to be confronted. 

for example in a relationship -  

if There is a  girl who might initially say that she can cook and do all chores its a routine ,she adds she might not even want to discuss it further, but later after few days if she says that she wants to leave relationship because she cannot cook and she doesnt want to adjust with husband cooking or the cook coming for cook then the problem after confrontation if she says she doesn't like you in first place. Then it means its best to give her space that she deserves. 

we get to choose our attitude - the way to respond we can try to be friendly and try to explain